He's just not that into you

He's just not that into you

Taken from the book "he's just not into you" by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo

-He's just not that into you if he's not asking you out.

Don't get tricked into asking him out. If he likes you, he'll do the asking.

An excuse is a polite rejection. Men are not afraid "ruining the friendship".

If you can find him, then he can find you. If he wants to find you, he will.

"Hey, lets meet at so-and-so's party/any bar/friends's house" is not a date! Even if you live in New York.

Men don't forget how much they like you. So put down the phone.

-He's just not that into you if he's not calling you.

If he's not calling you, it's because you are not on his mind.

If he creates expectations for you, and then doesn't follow through on the little things, he will do the same for big things. Be aware of this and realize that he's okay with disappointing you.

Don't be with someone who doesn't do what they say they're going to do.

"Busy" is another word for "asshole". "Asshole" is another word for the guy you're dating.

You deserve a fucking phone call.

-He's just not that into you if he's not dating you.

Guys tell you how they feel even if you refuse to listen or believe them."I don't want to be in a serious relationship" truly means "I don't want to be in a serious relationship with you" or "I'm not sure you're the one". (Sorry.)

Better then nothing is not good enough for you!

If you don't know where the relationship is going, it's ok to pull over and ask.

Murky? Not good.

There's a guy out there who will want to tell everyone that he's you boyfriend. Quit goofing around and go find him.

-He's just not that into you if he's not having sex with you.

People tell you who they are all the time. When a man says he can't be monogamous, you should believe him.

Companionship is wonderful, but companionship with sex is even better. Call a spade a spade or, more fittingly, a friend a friend, and go find a friend that can't keep his hands off you.

Your lost self-esteem may take longer to find than a new boyfriend, so prioritize accordingly.

If you're tempted to spend countless night just cuddling with someone, buy a puppy.

There's someone out there that does want to have sex with you, hot stuff.

-He's just not that into you if he's having sex with someone else.

There is no excuse for cheating. Let me say it again. There is no excuse for cheating. Now you say it. There is no excuse for cheating.

Your only responsibility in someone else's lapse in judgement is yourself.

Cheating is cheating. It doesn't mater whom is was with or how many times it happened.

Cheating gets easier every time it's done. It's only hard the first time, when one feels the sting of morality and the guilt of betraying someone's trust.

Cheaters never prosper. (Because they suck.)

A cheater only cheats himself, because he doesn't get to be with you.

-He's just not that into you if he only wants to see you when he's drunk.

It doesn't count unless he says it when he's sober. An "I love you" (or any semblance thereof) while under the influence of anything stronger than grape juice won't hold up in court or in life.

Drinking and drug use are not a path to one's innermost feelings. Otherwise people wouldn't smash empty beer cans against their skulls or stick their fingers in fir to see of they can feel it.

If he only wants to see you, talk to you, have sex with you, etc., when he's inebriated, it ain't love-it's sport.

Bad boys are actually bad.

You deserve to be with someone who doesn't have to get loaded to be around you.

-He's just not that into you if he doesn't want to marry you.

"Doesn't want to get married" and "Doesn't want to get married to me" are very different things. Be sure about which category he falls under.

If you have different views about marriage, what else are you not on the same page about? Time to take inventory.

If you don't feel like you're rushing, why are you waiting?

There's a guy out there who wants to marry you.

-He's just not that into you if he's breaking up with you.

You can't talk your way out of a breakup. Its not up for discussion. A breakup is a definitive action, not a democratic one.

Breakup sex still means you're broken up.

Cut him off. Let him miss you.

He doesn't need to be reminded that you're great.

He can take care of his cat.

"Classy" doesn't "break into his answering machine."

There is a guy out there who's going to be really happy that you didn't get back together with your crappy ex-boyfriend.

-He's just not that into you if he's disappeared on you.

He might be lying in the hospital with amnesia, but more likely he's just not that into you.

No answer is you answer.

Don't give him the chance to reject you again.

Let his mother yell at him. You're too busy.

There's no mysteryhe's gone and he wasn't good enough for you.

-He's just not that into you if he's married (and other insane variations of being unavailable)

He's married.

Unless he's all yours, he's still hers.

There are cool, loving single men in the world. Find one of them to go out with.

If a guy is yelling about his ex-wife or crying over his last girlfriend, try to find someone else to take you to the movies.

He's married.

Don't be that girl.

You are not easily forgotten. Let him find you when he's ready.

-He's just not that into you if he's a selfish jerk, a bully, or a really big freak.

Life is hard enough as it is without choosing someone difficult to share it with.

You deserve to be with someone who is nice to you all the time. (You have to be nice to them, too.)

There's never a reason to shout at someone unless they are in imminent danger.

Freaks should remains in the circus, not in your apartment.

You already have an asshole. You don't need another.

Make a space in your life for the glorious things you deserve.

Have faith. What other choice is there?

Posted: 1:36 p.m. EST April 25, 2006 by me ts